You really understand how valuable and important the relationship is when you go through very significant life changes and traumatic events.
I was in Ohio for Memorial weekend. Matt proposed at Moretti’s Saturday night! I was on such a high, and so excited. I went to see my Ohio Mom on Sunday and told her I was engaged. She was so happy for me, and we had a really good visit. I headed back to WA on May 31. It was so hard to leave since the next time we would see each other would be at the end of July.
While I was at work on June 4, my cell phone rang and it was my Ohio Mom’s social worker calling – my mom passed away. I was shocked. This was not supposed to happen. Why did this happen? I was so upset. Then I realized…. It was supposed to happen. She passed away just like her twin sister did; in her sleep. And she was ready. She saw that I was happy and would be ok, and taken care of, and it was time for her to go be happy with her twin sister, and her mom whom she lost two years ago. Believing that brings me such comfort. Even more comfort came from the strength from Matt, and his love, and support. I don’t know what I would have done without him. He was my rock
I flew back to Ohio on June 12 and stayed for two weeks to have a funeral and take care of as much as I could while there. The most time consuming was going through her home; she kept everything, literally everything. I found baby clothes, kindergarten art work, school work, baby teeth, letters to Santa, everything you can imagine. It was such an emotional roller coaster going down memory lane. I knew I would have to take care of that some day; I just wasn’t ready for it to be so soon.
Matt was there every step of the way. He led the memorial service which was so well done with such wonderful stories, and messages, and scripture. He always made sure I was ok, he made sure I had fun in between everything else, and he found the perfect times to make me laugh, and the perfect times to let me cry. Going through this with Matt was such an experience in loss, love, support, grace and strength.
I flew back to WA on June 26 having settled quite a bit of Mom’s estate, however there was still a lot to do. Matt has been working nonstop clearing out her place, coordinating painters, realtors, landscapers, you name it. He is amazing, and that’s a true sign of love and partnership.
At the end of this month, Matt and Abigayle are flying out here for a fun-filled time in Seattle, the amusement park in Idaho, and boat races in the Tri-Cities. I can’t wait for all of us to be together again, and have a little family vacation.